What the Bunk? What’s Wrong with the Truth?

I’m going to share something that might not be very popular and it may turn some of my potential clients away but I guess that’s the way it goes. 

This is something that has been coming up a lot in discussions with my mastermind buddies and it’s driving us crazy.

There are lots of people, on the very big stages and on many smaller ones too, that are flat out lying. They are talking about their million dollar retreats, lavish lifestyles, multi-million dollar businesses and dream life when I and many others know for a fact it isn’t true. 

• Some have a boat load of money but their personal lives and health are such a mess you wouldn’t trade circumstances in a million years.
• Some have brought in a million dollars or more but their expenses are so over the moon they barely bring home 6 figures themselves.
• Some claim to have all of the answers and play the “sage” when nothing in their life is working. 
• Some think that because they earn more, they are better than you and you should consider yourself lucky if they “allow” you to have access to them.
• Some are so plagued by insecurities and self-doubt that they have no business telling you how to live your life.
• Some may have what looks like an enviable lifestyle but they are complete jerks with an ego too big to fit in their own house.

But who cares, right? I think we all should. I think we should care if the people we look up to are living a lie. But, more to the point, it’s not the lies that are being told that are the real issue. The real issue is that in telling the lies, they are insinuating that the truth is just not good enough. 

What’s so wrong with the truth? What’s wrong with making low to mid 6-figures if that makes you happy? What’s wrong with being accessible to people in your business? What’s wrong with doing the work that drove you to start your business in the first place, instead of molding and manipulating it to mirror someone else’s business. What’s wrong with admitting that it’s not all cakes and bon bons? What’s wrong with saying “I tried this and it totally bombed” and not attaching any meaning to it, except for the fact that you might need some marketing help? What’s wrong with not being the next big thing or the next big personality guru? What’s wrong with delivering high end programs for 10k instead of 100k, if that’s what feels right for you? What’s wrong with being vulnerable?

Maybe I’m one of the lucky ones and maybe I have a much higher BS meter than most but the money just doesn’t do it for me.  Or maybe because I have been surrounded by many people and family in my life who for a million dollars was a drop in the pan that it seems laughable that you hit the 1, 2 or 3 million dollar mark and suddenly you act like Oprah, with about as much accessibility.

The truth is, I don’t make a million dollars, not by a long shot, and I am more than cool with that. I certainly might someday with the way things are going but I’m not after the almightly dollar. I don’t work 80 hours a week and that thrills me. I don’t always do what sells and that feels good inside. I am highly accessible to my clients and to people who email or call me randomly about something in their life or their business and I sleep well at night because of it. I don’t charge eveyone who asks and I give away my knowledge, expertise and information freely when it moves me and I don’t worry about it. I am in very good health and I could run a marathon tomorrow if I wanted. I eat well. I have an amazing 2YO daughter and a man I love. I have friends that I love, coaches that support me and a family I would happily die for. I have a very good business and the money I make allows me and my family to live a pretty flippin great lifesyle, minus the chauffeurs and personal assistants. 

But sometimes…  

• I don’t get every client I want
• Programs fail
• I doubt myself
• I want to throw in the towel 
• It feels hard
• I want more money
• I don’t workout as hard as I could
• I eat chocolate chip cookies
• I fail
• I make bad decisions
• I really want a pool with a house and a tennis court so I can play tennis and swim every day with ease
• I misjudge people
• I cry about it

To pretend anything else would be ridiculous. My clients don’t want perfection. They want what’s real and what’s true. I am not their guru and I never will be. I may have some information they don’t. I may have some degrees they don’t. and at the moment I may be bring in more money than they are. But I am not better than them. I don’t offer them hard core rules they have to live by and I don’t make them wrong when they disagree with what I beleive to be true. I simply offer them possibilities, support and often the loving kick in the butt they need to kepp it moving. In the end I’m just someone who wants them to get amazing results in their business and as long as I stay focused on that, the rest seems to work out just fine.

So, the lesson here is to be your own guru. Drink your own kool-aid and beware of the messengers who portray perfection. It’s not possible and remember 2 very powerful truths. Ony YOU know what is right for you, what will make you feel good inside and will allow you to lead a life of integrity and truth. And, if you take your life and your results as seriously as you take those “gurus” claiming to have all of the answers, you will manifest exactly what you want far more quickly. 

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