Mindcrushes – A Confession Of Sorts

So I just read this great post by Sydney Owen on mindcrushes and thought, “um yeah I have like a 100″. And I’m really quite glad she wrote it because she gave some words to what I’ve just been calling stalking. I stalk. I’m not as bad as that woman who was on Oprah the [...]

Tags: Ashley Ambirge, Gretchen Rubin, Kerrie Ann Frey, mindcrush, Sydney Owen, The Bloggess

Tina Fey Says “Say Yes”

I recently read an interview Oprah did with Tina Fey and I was struck by something she said in the interview. Oprah asked her what it was like to do improv and Tina Fey said that when she was acting she never knew what she was supposed to be thinking about when she was on stage. Her mind would go off into thoughts like “how does my hair look?”. But she said when she did improv the focus was always clear. “You’re supposed to be listening to the other person so you know how to respond. Improv involves a lot of agreement. It’s all about saying yes to the person you’re across from, because if you don’t say yes, the sketch is over.”

I love that. When you say “yes” to the person you are in communication with, whether it’s your boss, your friend or your significant other, you allow communication to keep going and with each moment you open more and more doors. One of the best ways I know of to say yes when you are in relationship or communication with someone is the actively listen. Here’s what it looks like when you are actively listening.

Tags: listening, Oprah, Relationships, Tina Fey

Do You Keep Your Promises?

Just over 18 months ago I was about ready to throw in the towel. I was working my butt off in my business but the money and clients were not rolling in. I was writing, marketing, creating, coaching and spending money left and right on information products, seminars and coaches but it just wasn’t coming together.

I was beyond frustrated.

Tags: Business, Health, promises, Success

What or Who Will You Divorce in 2009?

Most of us think about divorce in terms of a marriage breaking up. But when you think about, what’s really going on in a divorce can apply in so many more areas of your life. People divorce for a million reasons: money, kids, infidelity, fighting, work, stress, illness, etc. But the underlying reality is that most divorce because being together is no longer better than being apart.

Tags: divorce, Habits, Relationships, Transformation

Don’t Tolerate Life

Being a tolerant person is great…in one respect. It means you can put up with others and you’re generally happy with a “live and let live” mindset. In the bigger picture of your life, being tolerant will make dealing with all of the differences and idiosyncrasies of people much easier. However, when it starts to feel like much of your time is spent tolerating people, behaviors, etc., you’ll find success slipping away from your fingers.

Tags: mindset, positive energy, stress, tolerant person

Are You On Sale?

All day long I talk to people who act as though they are on sale – and I don’t mean FOR sale, but ON sale.  I can spot it anywhere because I used to be on sale.  I was on sale in every area of my life – career, relationships, financially, emotionally – you name [...]

Tags: Baeth Davis, Business, job, Money, Relationships, value, Work

Who Are You Being?

This is such a great video that I had to share it with you. We talk a lot about the person we want to be in the world but I don’t think I have ever heard this message put more eloquently than in this video. It is about 15 minutes but it’s fun, entertaining, valuable [...]

Tags: Attitude, being, Benjamin Zander, Chopin, Relationships

Creating Extraordinary Relationships – Step #7 Raise Your Vibration

You will attract what you put out there. If you go out into the dating world and dwell on the fact that there are no great, available men left or you run through in your head the last miserable date you went on, you are going to attract more of the same. We are all walking around on a certain vibration. If you are desperate, frustrated that you can’t find Mr. Right, or not feeling all that great about yourself, you may be falling at about a 5 on a vibrational scale of 1-10. Guess what, that’s exactly who you’ll attract – another 5. Not what you want, right?

Tags: attraction, energy, love, Marie Forleo, Relationships, vibration

Creating Extraordinary Relationships – Step #6 Take Responsibility

Ownership of a problem takes guts and integrity and 9 times out of 10 it opens the door for something better to emerge. No matter who you are with, what type of relationship you have, or what kind of person you are, you play a significant role in whatever is going on in the relationship. You are responsible for it going well just as you are for when it is not going so well. Ask yourself “How am I contributing either positively or negatively to this relationship right now? How can I make it better? What positive energy am I capable of introducing into the relationship today?”

Tags: communication, Marie Forleo, Relationships, Responsibility

Creating Extraordinary Relationships – Step #5 Build Solid Friendships

Decide whether you like someone before you worry about falling in love with them. Most people are so focused on finding the right person that they fail to look at all of the little qualities that make up who a person really is and they realize 5 months later they are involved with someone they don’t even like.

Tags: friendship, love, Marie Forleo, Relationships